Have you heard any gossip lately? Do you know the latest rumor?
Nah
Come on, don’t lie.
As humans we partake in it in some form, despite the age old adage, “If you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” Whether it is a workplace or college or school chatter, the sharing of family news or texts or calls between friends, it is inevitable that everyone who talks, well, talks about other people.
Did it ring a bell?
Still, a NO!
Let me give you some examples to spark something.
“Did you hear that…?”
“You’ll never guess what I heard today….”
“I have got some juicy news to tell you…..”
“Do you know what happened that day…?”
So yeah, all of us, are basically engaged in such talks everyday and to be frank, no one is a saint in today’s time, to say; what happens in other people lives, is none of his concern. What happens, even in space, is the concern of human race!
So why do we gossip and spread rumors?
Before moving on to that, let’s understand the difference between a rumor and gossip.
Rumor is a special kind of suggestion or story about real or fictitious person or event, which grows as its spreads. We have taken the Chinese Whisper we played as kids too seriously, I guess.The message in the rumor is an unverified account and may be neither true nor false. It is only a claim to truth. Often a mountain is made out of a mole hill in rumor.
Gossip is essentially talking about others and their personal affairs. Perhaps, it is not the nicest thing to do but, we are guilty as charged. Gossip could be true or just an exaggeration.
We engage ourselves in this guilty pleasure for many reasons. Sometimes, to feel better by inflicting pain on others, to deflect attention from ourselves. To feel accepted and seem cool, may be. For example, if you want to be in the group of QUEEN BEE, to get her attention, you start spreading some rumors and share some gossips with her about your old friends, teachers etc.
We tend to use this as means to climb social ladders or gain power by diminishing the status of another person. I remember an instance, where a builder wanted to buy a building in a posh area, to rebuild it. He offered enormous price for the building but, the owner refused. He paid people to spread rumors that the building was haunted and inauspicious. Gradually, the bidding for the land decreased and the owner had no more buyers and at the end, he had to sell it to that builder, in a far lesser price than the original.
It can also be used to get revenge. It happens mostly in schools, colleges and workplace where students and colleagues are envious of others looks, popularity, grades or for that matter money. Statements like, “She is a slut” or “She slept with the professor to gain marks or with boss to get promotion” or “He used his charms to get the job” are quite popular.
The last and the best reason, according to me, “Boredom.” We all love some drama in our lives. We resort to rumors and gossip to spice things up, to make life more exciting. Four girls, no, I’ll not be gender biased, four people in one room, doing nothing important, will be, cent percent, engrossed in a conversation not about themselves but definitely, others, probably bitching.
But, in all this, we forget that even what may seem as harmless talks, can affect someone drastically. It could lead to anxiety, excessive stress, depression, panic attacks, post traumatic stress disorder and even suicidal thoughts. We tend to forget or feel the impact of our words on someone’s mental health. People have committed suicides to be relieved from this regular infliction of false rumors and gossips and that’s a very serious repercussion.
To avoid this, I think we should not take any rumor we hear, seriously and also, not spread it. But, it is easier said than done. We all fall prey to it sometimes. We should remember, they are spread to promote something or to extol somebody, all for personal benefits.
Reason should be applied in judging any information and we should not depend on hearsay. Often, we tend to share any news in social media without trying to find it’s TRUE nature. We just can’t keep anything within ourselves. If the thing is juicy, it is meant to be publicised. Sentences like, “I’ll carry this to my grave” or “Cross my heart, if I speak of this to anyone” are false. We are like ATM machines, if the card is inserted, we have to give out money. Sometimes, it shows no money too, but we have an unending collection of rumors and gossips that never runs dry. Even it processes the information, before delivering money, but we don’t. Nowadays, WhatsApp is like a neighborhood aunty, who knows what’s in everyones’ tea and we as idiots, blind fools keep sharing it forward, like a blazing forest fire. It is self confidence and hard reasoning that can combat any unfounded rumor or gossip. Hence, sometimes it may be wiser for us to let head rule the heart.
Very well written and I agree too 😊😊
Social media has even made it worst, rumors and gossips
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Thank you so much!!💕💕
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I agree has taken a toll on people
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Yes it does!!😅😅
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The last para made me go gaga🤩🤩🤩
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Glad you liked it!!💕💕
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Agreeing with you Nawaz and you have said it rightly. ✌
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Thank you so much!!💕💕
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WhatsApp is like a neighborhood aunty… apt metaphor 😊
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Thank you Maya!!💕💕
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My pleasure 🧡
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Great post! Considering the source is always good.
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Thank you so much!!💕💕
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You’re so welcome!
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Gossip is definitely not a good thing. But I do sometimes indulge in Gossips, especially with my female friend and sometimes my college group 😅, man sa halka ho jata. guilty as charged. 😜
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Its human nature to gossip!!😅😅
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So good 😇
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Thank you so much!!🤗🤗💕💕
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Ahhh neighbourhood aunties 😐😐😐
Very apt writing 👏👏
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Thank you so much Vani!!💕💕😅😅
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Insightful and thought provoking write!
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Thank you so much!!💕💕
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My pleasure!
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I agree rumors has caused on people’s lives
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Yes they have!! Thanks for giving it a try!!💕💕
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Your welcome💕
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“Rumour has it”….. what’s adulthood without the garnish of the greatness of rumours!
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True!!😅😅
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It’s fun to gossip sometimes (sorry) 😅 we do this especially when me and my high school friends who haven’t seen each other for a while get together. We talk about who got married in our batch, who got pregnant etc. that sort of thing lol.
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Everybody gossips. I too indulge in it with friends. The problem comes when the harmless talks are not harmless anymore and start affecting the person concerned!! Thank you for sharing your views!!🤗🤗
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ya, I agree with you on this aspect. nicely portrayed this side of society.
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Thank you so much!!😊😊
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Guilty as charged 😂😂
Awesome post!!!❤️
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Thank you!!💕💕 all us are!!😅😅
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You have made a very valid point. In the age of social media, smear campaigns are abundant.
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Thank you!!😊😊
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I totally agree with you, it’s so so bad to gossip and rumor! Great post and thank you for sharing. 👍
Awesome blog by the way 😄
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Thank you so much!! It means a lot to me!!💕💕
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You’re very welcome 😊
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I agree it has taken a toll on people
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Your drove me through your posts so flawlessly.your words are good driver indeed..
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Thank you so much!! It means a lot to me!!😊😊
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Agreed!!
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Thanks!!💕
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😊😊😊
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So true….😂😂😂
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I was waiting for someone to write this❤❤ completely agree💯 & yes, beautifully expressed❤keep writing😊✌
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Thank you so much shubhangi!! It means a lot to me!!❤❤❤💕💕💕
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Eid Mubarak to you and your family.
best wishes and regards on the blessed occasion.
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Eid Mubarak to you and your family too!! Best wishes to you too!!🤗🤗
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khair mubarak. 😊
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Well researched! The example of Chinese Whisper was so apt to stress on the fact that these habits are developed right from the childhood. Gossiping and talking about anybody for your own pleasure is no less than bullying.
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Thank you so much!!❣❣❣
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Ha ha ha… If this news is juicy, it is meant to be publicized…Page 3 news in newspapers are the live example.
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Thank you so much!!😅😅😅
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Well written! Indeed, in these cases, let head rule the heart!!
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Thank you so much!!💕💕
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I couldn’t have agreed more!! The last part is fabulously written. Thanks for sharing this, Nawazish (did it just rhymed ? :>) ) Take care
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Thank you so much!!🤗🤗
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You’re most welcome 🙂
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Totally agree with this post. Sometimes I gossip so that I won’t feel left out when others are doing it or so others like me so it’s sad that gossiping is somewhat a criteria of fitting in. Love this!
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Thank you so much, Katie!!🤗🤗
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Hello Nawazish,
I have nominated you for Sunshine Blogger award! I hope you like it! Check out my recent post for more details! ❤️🙏
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Thank you so much!! I’ll sure check it out and respond within few days!!💕💕
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Very poignant and we’ll written blog.
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Thank you so much!!
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the pleasure is all mine
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Excellent and well said…Gossip always, for me, comes from our lowest instincts, not our highest. This doesn’t mean we can’t talk about anyone else…yes of course we can, but with respect, maybe concern or compassion, or looking for a solution to help.but not just idly discussing people for the fun of it (and the hurt for them, if they ever knew) Well done!
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Thank you so much!!❣❣ it means a lot to me!!❤❤
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You said it. I just yesterday deleted my Whatsapp and told some friends strongly I’m not interested to hear things about other people in their absence especially if it’s gossip which wastes the valuable time and energy of both speaker and listner 😊 Blessed day ahead 🌻🌼
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That was really nice of you!! Have a great day ahead!!❣❣
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Well said, Nawazish.
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Thank you so much!!😊😊
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You are welcome.
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Absolutely agree! As someone has rightly said, Gossip is the devil’s telephone; it’s best to hang-up.
Your posts are amazing. ❤️ Keep ’em coming!
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Thank you so much! It means a lot to me!!❣❣🤩🤩
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Wonderful post, at a time when fake news spread faster than legit ones, I hope your post could change a mind or two to double check the source rather trying to be first.
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Thank you so much!! It means a lot to me!!🤗🤗
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Thank you so much for the repost Arun!! It means a lot to me!!❣❣
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How true! When I was growing up, my mother would tell us, “Believe none of what you hear and only half of what you see!” Even what we see and know to be true should not be discussed with someone other than the one we saw. Very good post. Blessings!
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Thank you so much!!❣❣
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You are Most Welcome! Blessings!
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True social media can now be attributed to neighborhood aunties! Very well written!
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Thank you so much!!
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This is is true!!! I try not to gossip as much as I can but it still slips past my guard sometimes.🙃 Great post!
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Thank you so much!!💕💕
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Well penned
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Thanks!!❣❣
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Well written, an important message that is so well presented
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Thank you so much Shruti!!❤❤
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Namashkar
Bahot hi unda blog likha aapne panchayat pe
Best thing i like to do is panchayat
Ye baat bhi ho gyi
Ye baat bhi ho gyi kr k ki jaane wali panchayat
Whatsapp mein screenshot share kr k ki jaane wali panchayat
But i don’t like shaam 5 bje se news channel mein chalne wali panchayat 😖
Is lockdown mein mere liye panchayat karna bahot jaruri hai 😁 warna mai bore ho jaunga
Jab kabhi depression aae to don’t talk… Do panchayat… U will feel relaxed 🤭
Aur haan mai idhar ki baat udhar kabhi nhi karta shayad🤭
Mai screenshot bhi share nhi karta kabhi shayad🤭
Haan rumors dukhi karte kabhi kabhi… They are not good😓
But agar aapke baare mein rumor faill ra aur log Aapke baare mein panchayat kar rahe… It means dost tum tarakki kar rahe ho… Bass aage badhate raho😌🤭❣️
Aur tum social service bhi to kar rahe… Berozgari k samay jab logon k pas kaam nhi hai tum unko kitna achha kaam dere… Panchayat karna😂🤭
Khair chodo… Call karna aaj… Ek mast baat bataunga megha k baare mein🤓
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Yes…bore hone ke liye panchayat!!❣❣❣
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Wonderful 👍
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Thank you so much!!💕💕
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Great 👍 work of yours
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Thank you Subrata!!💕💕
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I read a post online that read, “I was telling my mother to spill some tea, and she said, be careful with what you spill, for it always leaves a stain” and I felt this was great advice
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Well that’s true!!❣
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😁😄😄🔥
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Thank you!!❣❣
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There is a triple filter method that Socrates used to stay away from such rumours. It consisted of Truthfulness, Goodness and Usefulness. Only if anything someone tells him passes the three test would he lend his ears.
Very well written, thought provoking!!
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Thank you so much!!🤗🤗
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Reblogged this on By the Mighty Mumford and commented:
YOWZA, YOWZA, YOWZA!!!! FOR THIS POST’S MESSAGE!
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Thank you!!❣❣
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Appreciate your perspective on this topic. Lot of funny punches! 😁 (other reason – Gossip is the means to socialise. It is what binds a large group together – from the book sapiens)
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Yes,truly. Very conversation begins with “You know what happened…”!!🤓 Thank you for reading!!❤❤
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